Comments for gonzo tales for today. http://gonzodedia.wordpress.com Providing strength when the going gets weird . . . since 1967 Thu, 29 Oct 2009 21:05:57 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 Comment on Wow, that was some hangover by brucekrystynam http://gonzodedia.wordpress.com/2009/09/25/wow-that-was-some-hangover/#comment-71 brucekrystynam Thu, 29 Oct 2009 21:05:57 +0000 http://gonzodedia.wordpress.com/?p=170#comment-71 Marly, didn't know whether you were aware or not, but there's a great "safe" (as in serious, NOT a "find CDs in your area to have sex with") support website/forums/chat for transgendered individuals, with a special section for CDs, that has within it a forum for spouses/SOs of CDs that you may wish to visit, lauras-playground.com. There are some wonderful and supportive people there, and you may find some answers to some of the things that vex you about your husband's behavior (and mine too). Hope this helps - kisses, KM Marly, didn’t know whether you were aware or not, but there’s a great “safe” (as in serious, NOT a “find CDs in your area to have sex with”) support website/forums/chat for transgendered individuals, with a special section for CDs, that has within it a forum for spouses/SOs of CDs that you may wish to visit, lauras-playground.com. There are some wonderful and supportive people there, and you may find some answers to some of the things that vex you about your husband’s behavior (and mine too). Hope this helps – kisses, KM

]]> Comment on Wow, that was some hangover by brucekrystynam http://gonzodedia.wordpress.com/2009/09/25/wow-that-was-some-hangover/#comment-70 brucekrystynam Thu, 08 Oct 2009 04:11:47 +0000 http://gonzodedia.wordpress.com/?p=170#comment-70 Marly - Some of your comments are fair enough, but there are a few factors I haven't shared that you may find relevant . First, I smoked weed before we met, and when we met, nearly 20 years ago, so it has been a known quantity. Sure, it's a coping tool, but has been since i was 20. It has never interfered with my career goals, which I've actually exceeded substantially (had my best eval ever this spring in a very demanding occupation). I am probably ADD, and it tends to bring me focus - would lithium or an adjutant work as well? Perhaps, maybe it's worth exploring, rather than self-medicating. The bike wasn't intended to piss her off, it's something I enjoy, it just happens to be something she can't abide - not intended to aggravate her, it's a question of each of us being free to pursue things that, while risky, are not inherently hurtful to the other person. I ride because I love to ride. The cross-dressing she doesn't understand, but it's become clear over time that it is more disturbing to her, while it brings me comfort and feels natural and right to me. I don't particularly flaunt it, even in my own house - I typically wear earring, underdress with panties, shave a few select areas of my body because it makes me feel somewhat femme, and I haven't gone out by myself, or asked her to go out with me dressed - she just seems not to be as accepting as her initial reaction led me to believe. Finally, she won't engage me on any of these subjects in any kind of a constructive way, even though I'm dependable, conscientious, a good provider, and a sweet man who loves her. I've talked to her, poured my heart out in sober moments, and I get back . . . nothing. I've suggested counseling, for me, for us both, she won't make a move on it. It's really a tough situation, and I think it takes two to tango on all this stuff. I have more to tell, but I'll get to it in some time. I appreciate your reply, and I think I can empathize with the hurt, anger and frustration you're feeling. Thanks for reading, hon, hope to chat again soon - Kisses, KM Marly – Some of your comments are fair enough, but there are a few factors I haven’t shared that you may find relevant . First, I smoked weed before we met, and when we met, nearly 20 years ago, so it has been a known quantity. Sure, it’s a coping tool, but has been since i was 20. It has never interfered with my career goals, which I’ve actually exceeded substantially (had my best eval ever this spring in a very demanding occupation). I am probably ADD, and it tends to bring me focus – would lithium or an adjutant work as well? Perhaps, maybe it’s worth exploring, rather than self-medicating. The bike wasn’t intended to piss her off, it’s something I enjoy, it just happens to be something she can’t abide – not intended to aggravate her, it’s a question of each of us being free to pursue things that, while risky, are not inherently hurtful to the other person. I ride because I love to ride. The cross-dressing she doesn’t understand, but it’s become clear over time that it is more disturbing to her, while it brings me comfort and feels natural and right to me. I don’t particularly flaunt it, even in my own house – I typically wear earring, underdress with panties, shave a few select areas of my body because it makes me feel somewhat femme, and I haven’t gone out by myself, or asked her to go out with me dressed – she just seems not to be as accepting as her initial reaction led me to believe.

Finally, she won’t engage me on any of these subjects in any kind of a constructive way, even though I’m dependable, conscientious, a good provider, and a sweet man who loves her. I’ve talked to her, poured my heart out in sober moments, and I get back . . . nothing. I’ve suggested counseling, for me, for us both, she won’t make a move on it. It’s really a tough situation, and I think it takes two to tango on all this stuff. I have more to tell, but I’ll get to it in some time. I appreciate your reply, and I think I can empathize with the hurt, anger and frustration you’re feeling. Thanks for reading, hon, hope to chat again soon –

Kisses, KM

]]> Comment on Wow, that was some hangover by Marly http://gonzodedia.wordpress.com/2009/09/25/wow-that-was-some-hangover/#comment-69 Marly Wed, 07 Oct 2009 17:24:26 +0000 http://gonzodedia.wordpress.com/?p=170#comment-69 Bruce, As you know, I have commented on one of your posts before. As the wife of a cross-dresser, I feel as I have a bit of insight into your wife's attitude toward things. I feel I must say something now because your marriage seems to be self-destructing. If you are as unhappy as you say about things falling apart, why do you do things to intentionally piss her off? You have said the pot, the bike and the cross-dressing are all sore subjects with her, yet you don't say whether you have made any attempts to talk to her or look at things from her perspective. All of these things are a means of escape from your relationship with her; a way for you to avoid dealing with her. How is she supposed to understand your issues if you blind-side her with them and retreat? For her, the main issue IS the cross-dressing. She doesn't understand and you haven't done anything to help her try to understand, so why should she be agreeable to it? If she means anything to you, you will be understanding to what emotions she has about it. I don't care what all of those ridiculous books say; wives aren't required to be understaning about cross-dressing any more than they would have to be understanding about being cheated on. I realize these are two different issues but women look at them similarly because they both take our men away from us; and really, IS there a proper reaction to that? Bruce,
As you know, I have commented on one of your posts before. As the wife of a cross-dresser, I feel as I have a bit of insight into your wife’s attitude toward things. I feel I must say something now because your marriage seems to be self-destructing.
If you are as unhappy as you say about things falling apart, why do you do things to intentionally piss her off? You have said the pot, the bike and the cross-dressing are all sore subjects with her, yet you don’t say whether you have made any attempts to talk to her or look at things from her perspective. All of these things are a means of escape from your relationship with her; a way for you to avoid dealing with her. How is she supposed to understand your issues if you blind-side her with them and retreat?

For her, the main issue IS the cross-dressing. She doesn’t understand and you haven’t done anything to help her try to understand, so why should she be agreeable to it? If she means anything to you, you will be understanding to what emotions she has about it. I don’t care what all of those ridiculous books say; wives aren’t required to be understaning about cross-dressing any more than they would have to be understanding about being cheated on. I realize these are two different issues but women look at them similarly because they both take our men away from us; and really, IS there a proper reaction to that?

]]> Comment on Fannie Mae and Freddie Mac — What the candidates should have said . . . Installment 1 by brucekrystynam http://gonzodedia.wordpress.com/2008/09/07/fannie-mae-and-freddie-mac-what-the-candidates-should-have-said-installment-1/#comment-68 brucekrystynam Fri, 11 Sep 2009 03:33:55 +0000 http://gonzodedia.wordpress.com/?p=56#comment-68 Sandra, so sweet of you to write, thank you! I am enjoying the wide open free forum available to us all here, gives me the chance to say things "out loud" that otherwise just bounce around idly inside the old pumpkin. I took a hiatus over the summer, but it gave me some space to think, and lots, of course has happened since June, so looking forward to writing in earnest again over the next several weeks. Kisses! KM Sandra, so sweet of you to write, thank you! I am enjoying the wide open free forum available to us all here, gives me the chance to say things “out loud” that otherwise just bounce around idly inside the old pumpkin. I took a hiatus over the summer, but it gave me some space to think, and lots, of course has happened since June, so looking forward to writing in earnest again over the next several weeks.

Kisses! KM

]]> Comment on Fannie Mae and Freddie Mac — What the candidates should have said . . . Installment 1 by sandrar http://gonzodedia.wordpress.com/2008/09/07/fannie-mae-and-freddie-mac-what-the-candidates-should-have-said-installment-1/#comment-67 sandrar Thu, 10 Sep 2009 14:45:42 +0000 http://gonzodedia.wordpress.com/?p=56#comment-67 Hi! I was surfing and found your blog post... nice! I love your blog. :) Cheers! Sandra. R. Hi! I was surfing and found your blog post… nice! I love your blog. :) Cheers! Sandra. R.

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